I grounded my cat| fear aggression

Yes, you read the title correctly. I grounded Maizy for a week. Back in January Maizy started acting uncharacteristically aggressive towards Tigre. After people telling me she’s just in heat (she wasn’t) I scheduled an appointment with the veterinarian in case something worse was going on. Then I turned to google, and I learned that fear aggression is a thing.

What is fear aggression

Fear aggression is when an animal acts out aggressively from fear. It usually follows after a cat fight, when intruding a new cat.

If you type “why do my cats suddenly hate each other” you will find information on “reintroducing you cats after a fight. After reading it very carefully I went to work separating them switching them so they can get used to each others scent. Which tbh seems like nonsense, they’ve been together for almost 5 years. This method probably works, it didn’t for me or my cats. It doesn’t help that the galaxy cat daddy guy doesn’t respond to comments or offer any kind of further help. I’ve had someone else respond to my comment the other day having the same problem with their cat and another asking why and how I changed methods.

Why I switched.

Well easy answer for why, it wasn’t working. I need consistency and our normal routine was a mixed up. I felt guilty for locking one cat up while allowing the other the freedom of the house. For a week I kept them separate. I tried the put one in a kennel in the room with the other she never got any better. And because no matter where I am in my house there is usually 2 cats within arms length. So I had to try something new.

What worked for me

Xojohnnielynn | maizy | fear aggression

I went to Walmart and got a harness for Maizy because I was afraid that the collar was going to hurt her. I kept her by my side and on the leash for a week while Tigre hid in the curtains. Maizy hated the leash, as soon as it was connected to flopped to the ground. Which had it’s own benefits as I was able to hold her and cuddle her all day. But I kept them in the same room while I held her because she was the aggressor.

Smartykat | fear aggression

I decided enough was enough after a week and they were going to get along. So I went and got the scratch scroll and sprayed it with some catnip spray. Then I took Tigre and his bed and sprayed it. I left them about a foot apart. After a bit they were both calm and affected by the catnip that Maizy didn’t care Tigre was near. I this this on a Friday after work so I didn’t have to leave for a bit to be sure they would be good.


Now obviously I’m not a vet or even a cat expert, but I am pretty good at finding creative solutions to my problems. Maizy did go get checked out by a vet who confirmed that there isn’t anything medical as to why she was acting aggressive. This way worked for my cats and a lot of why I felt good trying it is because my cats know their names and if I call Maizy she usually stops and meows at when he weirdest thing I’ve done this ytea r. back. This isn’t a proper way of doing anything, just what worked for me and my cats. They’ve been getting along just fine since their dispute in January.

If you know anyone that might benefit from this please share it with them. Also leave in the comments what works with your pets.

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How to get motivated for spring cleaning

Hey guys… spring is here. The suns shining and the weather is warming up. Which means it’s time to start spring cleaning. If you should know anything before reading this post it’s that I suck at cleaning.  I get easily overwhelmed and just put it off.  I’m also terrible at organizing so I just struggle with it all along.  So it seemed like the best time to share with my tips and tricks on spring cleaning

Find inspiration.

Where ever you can find something to inspired your need to clean. Mine comes from social media. Mrs. Hinch’s instagram is the most motivating. I’ve never seen anyone who seems more happy to be cleaning then her. Not only does she make cleaning look enjoyable she gives tips on ways to make it easier.  Seriously though the more I watch her clean or talk about cleaning and cleaning products the more likely I am to work harder.

Make it fun

When it’s time to get the kids I hang out with to pick up I always make it fun. Usually I challenge them to pick up all of the toys before the next song ends. I also like to see who can pick up the fastest.  For me it’s not that easy to trick myself into it. However I found some ways to make it fun. Music is one, either grab the earbuds, or turn it up and sing along or dance along and ,are cleaning not so dull.  Audio  books are a great mood saver. I can’t just sit somewhere turn on an audio book and listen to it… so cleaning is the perfect time for that. And using my scribed app I have access to tons of audio books.

Find products you feel good about.

I get a strange sense of enjoyment in cleaning products. My current favorite brand of cleaning products is Method home. They are natural and plant based so they’re safe to use around children and pets. Method is the only brand I’ve been using. Windows, surfaces, kitchen, bathroom, laundry, everything. 

Now that I’ve got the cleaning part figured out I just need to learn how to organize. Does anyone have and tips and tricks for orginizing??? Send help.

Spring cleaning pin

3 Reasons I love spring

Guys, guys, guys guess what!!! It’s spring, winter is officially over! I can’t tell you how happy this makes me. I don’t love winter, it’s cold and dark and wet and I can’t cope. You know how some people get seasonal depression, I more get seasonal frustration. So I thought I would share with you some of the reasons why I love spring.

3 things I like about spring.

The sun comes out.

If you could see my time hop from the end of December until around now I whine a lot about how I miss the sun. Seriously I’m like a flower I need the sun to survive. My level of happiness or mood is highly based on the sun.

The weather becomes warmer.

I hate being cold. I won’t go outside if it’s cold. Then being pent up inside makes me frustrated. And that’s not good for anyone. I don’t mind it too much at night though because I like to be burried under as many blankets as I

Colors come back.

Winter time is not very colorful. Outside the ground is white, and the sky is grey every day. Not that spring is here the sky is less gloomy and the snow is melting. The grass is green the roads are grey, the sky is blue and soon all of the flowers will be in bloom. Our clothes tend to be more bright and colorful too.

The absolute best thing about spring is that summer right around the corner. 92 days and counting. What’s you’re favorite thing about spring?


Accept failure and move on.

Awe man how awesome were all of my blog posts for February? Oh right I didn’t post anything. I started the year with a goal of 2-3 blog posts every week. I started to fizzle the end of January and completely flopped all of February. So I have two choices, I can beat myself up about it. Or I can accept failure and move on.

Accept failure.

For me this is easy, mostly for the sad fact that that’s what I kind of expect anyway. I like to go through life not knowing what I’m doing and hopeing for the best. Anxiety really takes a toll on your self esteem. Also I tend to be a bit over dramatic and see every set back as failure.

The thing with failing at something is that it doesn’t have to be the end of the world. It’s ok to not be perfect. One of the things I’ve often told m cheerleaders, is “I will never ask or expect you to be or do the best. I only ask for your best.” I try to remind myself the same thing. I don’t have to be the best. Just my best, which is definitely possible.

Moving on

I thought that I would share with you a few tricks that help me move on when I fail.

  • Give yourself A few minutes to feel sorry for yourself. It’s ok to be frustrated, assuming you don’t treat any one or anything poorly. Last weekend I made a cake for my nieces birthday and it turned out to be much smaller then I expected. I spent a good ten minutes yelling at the cake. But it ended up being big enough.
  • Take a deep breath, and shake it off. I had to remind myself that if I keep pouting then tay wouldn’t have a birthday cake. Or at least not one like she wanted.
  • Step back. If anyone else had made the cake I would t have thought anything of the size. It would have been fine. I find it’s like that with most things. We are way to hard on our selves.

I hope this helps or at least makes sense. How do you deal with failure or set backs? Go follow me on Twitter to hear about more times I fail at things.


March goals

Hi there. So I realize that I hadn’t posted anything since my February goals. I don’t have any real excuse either. I just kind of flopped. I don’t love that it happed but I’m not going to worry about it. I’m going to start again. With that being said I thought I should go over my March goals.

Focus on self care

March goal self care

I used to be pretty good with this. At least once a week I made time for a warm bath with a hair mask and face mask all of it. For the last 6 months after work I would either have a game or practice and that was it. I’ve been to busy to care but now cheerleading is over. Don’t get me wrong I love cheerleading and I love that I get to coach such amazing girls. They’ve got so much potential it’s unreal. I need to start forcing my self to unwind and destress. I have a much harder time trying to focus and write when I let my stress build up

Clear out Facebook

March goals Facebook

Ok so I don’t spend a lot do time on Facebook anyway. I find it too overwhelming. I mostly want to clear out the groups. When I get the urge to try and grow my blog, YouTube or any other social media sites I jump in and join all of the groups. I don’t like them. I’d like to go through and leave all of them. Well maybe I’ll keep one. Not just blogging groups all of the groups.

Get back to blogging

March goals blogging

I’m refocusing on the goal of writing 2-3 blog posts a week. But I want to be more um, prepared. I’d like to dedicate one day to just writing and getting photos ready. Now that cheer is over I should have more time to write and edit photos.

Those are my goals for this month. Please tell me in the comments what is something you’d like to achieve this month?